BRX Pro Tip: You Can do the Hard Things
Stone Payton: And we’re back with Business RadioX Pro Tips. Lee Kantor and Stone Payton here with you. Lee, what’s your secret learning attitude, approach to doing the hard things?
Lee Kantor: Yeah, I think this is really important for people to understand that a person can do hard things. And when I’m kind of coaching somebody, I really make it a point to affirm that they can do hard things.
Lee Kantor: A lot of times, people quit, or they don’t think they can do the thing, and that’s just not true. And the proof really isn’t an opinion. The more that you can kind of move the truth to actual proof and show evidence that a person can do a hard thing, that helps give them the confidence that they can continue to do hard things in the future.
Lee Kantor: So, the proof isn’t just my opinion. The proof has to be evidence-based on previous activities and previous hard things that a person has done. So, I think it’s important, as anybody is kind of trying to grow their career or they’re trying to grow their business is to put together some sort of portfolio that is evidence that you, as an individual, have done hard things.
Lee Kantor: I mean, if you’ve never done this before, then think back to moments in the past that were difficult and that you did something difficult. That you did that hard thing. That maybe it felt impossible, but you were able to get through it, and then you were able to succeed, no matter what that was.
Lee Kantor: And it doesn’t matter that if you, you know – I tried to get this job and you didn’t get the job, but maybe just I tried to get the job and I got the interview, and that was a hard thing that I did, and that was kind of evidence that I can do more hard things. It didn’t go my way at the end, but I was able to kind of do that. And I didn’t kind of crumble. I didn’t fall apart; I adapted. I was able to kind of handle that type of challenge.
Lee Kantor: So, the more evidence that you have in front of you that you can do these things, it creates that muscle memory, that when you know that you can do it, then you can do it again. And that type of evidence is what you need so that you can handle the hard things that are going to come at you as your life just goes on.
Lee Kantor: And the evidence doesn’t expire. So when that doubt creeps in, just remind yourself, “Hey, I’ve done things like this before. I can do things like this again.” So list your wins. List those comebacks. List the successful improvisations that you’ve done in order to adapt and handle a tough situation. Put them somewhere where you can see them and read them and remind yourself that they exist because those are the evidence that you need to help you kind of power through the difficult times that everybody’s going to face in their life.
Lee Kantor: So, you don’t need to create this kind of courage out of nowhere. You have the evidence if you just kind of go back and put it in one place where you can see it and reconnect with it and remind yourself of what you’ve already done and what you’ve already accomplished. You’ve done hard things before. That’s how you know you can do hard things again.
